Setting Boundaries as a Form of Self Care

“I set boundaries, not to offend you, but to respect myself.” - Unknown

A broken heart needs time to heal. Healing establishes boundaries.  Sadly, or perhaps happily, as in my case, I learned this the hard way. A difficult, but very worthy lesson learned.

First, it’s important to define what boundaries are, and what they are not. Literally speaking, boundaries show where one thing ends and another begins. In a relationship, it helps each partner define what you are comfortable with and how you would like to be treated by your partner. A boundary is about your own actions, not someone else’s.  Boundaries are NOT about controlling your partner, or allowing yourself to be controlled by your partner’s actions and behaviors. Boundaries are not, but can cause or lead to, avoidance, silent treatment, ghosting, gaslighting, and toxicity.

Boundaries are a tool not a weapon. It’s not selfish, it’s a form of self-care. 

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